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Dear Uncle Lian.


Hello! I am a second year student and there is always something that I think about day and night lately. I hope Uncle Lien can read this unexpected email in his busy schedule. Here's the thing: I was in seventh grade and just found out that the school had a basketball team and that the basketball players were specially recruited from elementary schools. I was very interested in basketball at that time, and when I saw that the basketball team won the award for the school, the idea of joining the basketball team popped out from my heart. Then, I approached the school's basketball coach through my connections and asked if I could join the school's basketball team. The coach gave me a chance, and I made it to the basketball team. However, within two days, the class teacher found me and told me that you were not allowed to go to the basketball team! I couldn't understand why I was suddenly not allowed to train.


Later, in my second year, we had a new homeroom teacher. At that time, the homeroom teacher asked me if I was a special student, and I frankly said no. After that, the homeroom teacher never mentioned it again. After that, the homeroom teacher never mentioned it again.


Just a few weeks ago, I once again asked the homeroom teacher if I could join the basketball team, but was denied by the homeroom teacher. The homeroom teacher told me that now you only have two choices.


One, you can train for the basketball team but from now on your academic performance is none of my business. If you can't play basketball well, you'll have to beg for your own food.


Second, do not go to the basketball team, study hard, get a better high school, after the college entrance exam can have a good college to read.


The class teacher's tests made me unable to enter or withdraw. What should I do?


Is it better to go to the varsity or to study hard? I hope I can get a reply from Uncle Lien.


Reply


Being visible at school is an irresistible lure for teenagers. Even if you are not the main player, you can only sit on the bench as a substitute, but you can still be noticeable, this is the psychological motivation for you to enter the school team. Sports look especially handsome and attractive over those kids with particularly good grades. The immediate gratification that you can get makes you think about it.


There is nothing wrong with the psychological motivation of wanting to stand out. Not only is it right, it's especially good. Because of it, people compete, win, achieve, contribute, and to be noticed, you always have to be special. If everyone only lived until the end of middle school, I'd support you on the varsity team. However, middle school belongs to the part of life that is just beginning, and years later, many of your classmates' names you can't even remember. So the stars of the middle school era, if they can't sustain their brilliance, are forgotten as soon as they reach high school. Your junior high school varsity basketball team, are dependent on relationships to get in, indicating the benefits of basketball, you eat at most until junior high school graduation. Later in life, do you live on memories of junior high school? You really do, your classmates will feel sorry for you, very boring. Let alone reminiscing about junior high school, those who especially love to recall high school and college glory will be seen by listeners as having a bit of a mental problem.


Junior high school students, the only option is to study well. This is true for students at any stage, elementary, high school, college, and even doctoral students. This is not to say that you don't want sports, yes, it's just that sports are in a secondary, secondary position, and you can still play while you study.


Human society, in essence, is a knowledge society, and the greatest competitiveness is the ability to acquire knowledge and create knowledge. So the learning process is long, school career, less than ten years, more than twenty years. Playing level by level in the school system, we can become an active knowledge creator only after we leave school. Of course, at any level of school, there are always only a few students who are particularly high achievers. Most kids try very hard and get average grades, and you probably do too. This is not to say that they learned for nothing; quite the contrary, they learned one of the most important skills in life - to take responsibility and do their best. I'm a student, learning is my responsibility, and no matter what the outcome, just do your best to fight. The child who can adhere to this simple principle, no matter how common or unremarkable he or she is in school, will have a rich, happy and respectful life in the future.


A person who takes responsibility and does his best is invincible, and it is impossible for his family, his friends, his co-workers, everything that meets him, not to like him. Such people, when they are junior high school students, are often those children who study well, but may have average grades, and have a very long life, and their good qualities at that time will only become apparent after more than a decade, or decades of accumulation.


Have fun.


Lian Yue